Bahrain, Saudi Arabia..Coast Guard?
My boyfriend is volunteering to go to Bahrain, Saudi Arabia for a year with the Coast Guard. I don't know how to handle this. I don't know how to be strong about this. I don't know how to make this normal. I don't understand why he wants to go, he says money, but I just want him to stay home. Please someone, anyone who has been through a deployment, please help me. I have no idea how I am supposed to cope with this. I can't stop crying, every ten minutes I break out into fresh tears. Please someone help. Give me advice. i am behind him 100 percent. I do support him. that wasn't my question and i'm not trying to stop him. i was asking for advice on how to handle him being over seas. how to handle it personally. im not trying to stop him. i know he wants to do this and if wants to then im here for him, but im crumbling inside. i support him and he wont see me a mess, i wont let him, but i want to hear advice from people who have dealt with having someone away and how they have handled it.
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1 :
he should take your feelings into considerations however you should also take his feelings into consideration. If he only doing it for money then he has his priorities all screwed up. If he doing it to serve his country, cause he really really wants to then he should by all means go. i was in a relationship for 8 years (and i'm only 22!) and the only way we made it work for so long is cause we give each other space. I wanted to join the Army, he was sad to be away from me but knew it will make me happy so he did not cry or do anything to make me feel guilty for enlisting. He wanted to do tons of things that was never part of my "ideal lifestyle"but i told him to do it anyway cause it brought him happiness.if this is going to bring your boyfriend happiness how can you try to take that away from him?
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well deployements are a part of life in the military. i guess the coast guard is similar. at least he's doing his part and you are both sacrificing for others. where is he going, bahrain or saudi arabia?
3 :
grow up and let him do his duty. instead of being a baby, be PROUD that he has volunteered to go where so many others try and shirk their responsibilities. you don't own him, if he feels the need to do this then support him, don't be selfish.
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Take comfort in the fact that your boyfriend is answering to a higher calling than himself. Coast Guard tours of duty in Bahrain are only one year (unless he wants to extend it). After he comes back home, he'll have #1 priority in choosing where he wants to be stationed next. I'm sure you can take comfort in that, especially knowing he has more leeway in where he chooses to be stationed. And by the way, Bahrain is not in Saudi Arabia. Bahrain is a country in itself which borders Sauid Arabia. It's one of the more "Westernized" Arab countries in the middle east that are a lot less hostile than others. You can take comfort in that too.
